1. STOP REFERRING TO DOING HOMEWORK AS YOUR CHILDREN’S “JOB”
When you call it a “job”, you are implying that it will be all work and no fun. Doing that is setting up children to feel bad even when it’s not.
2. DON’T TELL YOUR CHILDREN, “YOU CANNOT PLAY UNTIL YOU FINISH YOUR HOMEWORK”
Tell your children that they have to do both. They can decide the order of doing them as long as they do both by the end of the day. You’d be surprised giving children autonomy over their homework schedule is one of the biggest motivators.
3. DON’T USE “NO HOMEWORK” AS REWARDS
Homework is for practicing what we’ve learned in school. It helps us understand and remember better. It’s not a punishment or torture that you need a “break” to feel better. Don’t give your children the impression that homework is something you want to get away from.
4. DO NOT NAG, BRIBE, OR FORCE
Do not nag and do not force your children to do homework, whether through rewards or punishment. Forcing or bribing will only backfire and reduce your children’s intrinsic motivation. The motivation to do homework needs to come from within the children themselves.
5. LET YOUR CHILDren FACE THE NATURAL CONSEQUENCES
Walk them through the natural consequences of not doing homework. They will have to explain to the teacher why the homework was not done and they may lose some recess time or get punished, etc. You’re helping them make the right decision by letting them understand and face the natural consequences sooner rather than later.
6. DO HOMEWORK WITH YOUR CHILDREN
Don’t just tell your children that homework is important, show them through your action. By doing homework with them, you are telling your children you value this so much that you are willing to take the time to do it together.
7. MAKE DOING HOMEWORK FUN AND POSITIVE
Method 1: Use doing homework as a “reward” (younger children like kindergarteners).
Method 2: Turn to do homework into a game and a bonding activity.